Life in a war zone presents challenges most of us can barely comprehend. The constant threat, the disruption to daily life, and the emotional toll can feel overwhelming. Especially for new Olim who came here, often with a sense of calling and the excitement of finally coming home, it can be even more so trying to navigate life during times of war and facing these intense pressures while still adjusting to a new country, culture, and language.
As a life and career coach, I want to dedicate this blog series to providing practical strategies and insights for navigating these extraordinary circumstances. We’ll delve into topics aimed at helping you find strength, maintain well-being, and discover a sense of purpose amidst the chaos. We will explore techniques for managing stress, building mental resilience, cultivating hope, and fostering community. We’ll also look at practicalities like maintaining routines, finding resources, and adapting your work life in a time of conflict.
For now, let’s start with a few immediate, actionable tips, especially relevant for new Olim:
1. Regaining Control and Responsibility:
The hardest part of living with extreme disruptions and uncertainty is the sense of lack of control and helplessness. That’s why it is crucial that you take back control where and when you can. Start off by making a list of things that ARE in your control (e.g., showering and getting dressed, making sure there is proper food in the house, intentionally focusing on something positive, such as listening to uplifting or calming music or watching stand-up comedy). If you are living with others, make sure everyone has their clear responsibilities and takes actions, such as being responsible for the water supplies, chores around the house, and engaging the kids. Make sure everyone knows exactly what they’re doing when there is an alarm (who takes the small children? Who grabs the dog, the emergency bag?)
2. Seek Small Moments of Routine:
Even in disrupted circumstances, try to maintain small routines. This could be as simple as having a cup of tea at the same time each day or taking a few minutes for quiet reflection. Try to go for walks, even short ones, around your block to get some fresh air and some physical exercise. If you can work from home, try to get even a little bit done for that sense of achievement and purpose. These small anchors can provide a sense of normalcy and control in an unfamiliar environment.
3. Connect and Seek Local Support:
Make sure you are in touch with others. If you already know people, make sure you have at least one or two friends you communicate with regularly. I have a group of girlfriends who, during every alarm, check in with each other. The same with my family WhatsApp. You can also check in and chat with friends and family abroad, as long as you have that human connection. Reach out to your existing support network and actively seek out local resources and communities for new immigrants. Many organizations offer assistance and information in various languages. Don’t hesitate to ask for help in navigating unfamiliar systems or connecting with others who understand your unique situation. Remember, we at Belong are here for you.
4. Focus on the Immediate Present:
When anxiety feels crushing, try to bring your attention to the present moment. Engage your senses – what do you see, hear, smell, and feel right now? This grounding technique can help reduce overwhelming thoughts about the future.
This journey will be challenging, but you are not alone.
For new Olim, especially, remember your resilience in making Aliyah – you have already demonstrated immense strength.
Join me as we explore ways to navigate the unimaginable with strength and resilience. Stay tuned for our next post, where we’ll delve into practical stress management techniques.
